The Psychology of the Pleaser Type

leasers are very adaptable to any situation. They can fit in anywhere in any type crowd. People with this Pleaser Heart Line will act the way they think other people expect them to act (especially partner, family, or friend). They have developed a deep sense for "reading people" and then know how to act around them. However, it is very difficult and scary for the Pleaser to show their true feelings, especially when they see it would not please someone else. Instead they will focus their actions on what will please the other person to insure a positive response. They will do whatever is necessary to avoid having to deal with the other person's negative responses, even if it requires negating their own real feelings.

This behavior pattern to get "peace at any cost" was learned earlier in situations where not doing so brought on painful disapproval, anger, ridicule, guilt, indignation, jeers, humiliation, etc. The price they pay for acceptance from others is loss of their emotional power to feel their own true feelings.

People with this Pleaser type of line easily fall for anyone's sob story. They feel that they can somehow fix life's upsets by giving in to other people's needs and wants. This is almost always at the expense of their own true feelings and needs, however. They will never "rub anyone the wrong way".

The Pleaser can be a valuable friend because of their keen senses and ability to read people so quickly. A Pleaser needs to feel very safe before fully being real and honest about their true feelings.

If the downturn on the end of the Heart Line just points to, but does not touch, the Life Line, then the tendencies are medium. This is also true if the Heart Line is very faint.

When the Heart Line end touches the Life Line the tendencies are frequent and severe. If the Heart Line end crosses and goes inside the Life Line, this person will do anything to please others.

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